Relationship Resolutions

Dear Friends and Clients;

The approaching holiday season usually means more time with your family. While this can be positive, it can also be challenging! I am delighted to share, with permission, the excellent worksheet below. This was written by one of my clients many years ago and is the outcome of our hard work together as she learned to deal with a difficult relative.

Fill in the blanks with the name of a person in your life with whom you struggle. Read the resolutions aloud to yourself with their name in the blank. Repeat for as many people as you wish.

If I may be of help in this or any process, please let me know! I hope you find this useful. Counseling for divorce, anxiety, depression and divorce recovery are available in person. Online counseling is also an option through Skype.

All My Best,


Relationship Resolutions Worksheet

  1. Understand that _______experiences life from her/his perspective, not mine.
  2. Be kind, calm AND assertive with ______so I can be at peace with my own behavior.
  3. Accept _________where they are now rather than trying to “help” them change.
  4. Give up trying to make __________ happy.
  5. Believe in __________________’s ability to do the necessary to live their own life at this time.
  6. Let __________experience their own feelings (guilt, fear, anger etc.) without my getting caught up in them.
  7. Let __________experience and deal with their own emotional pain.
  8. Do not take control of things that __________should do on their own as a grown adult.
  9. Set and maintain my personal boundaries with ___________.
  10. Forgive the past and focus on the positive aspects of my relationship with ____________.
  11. Accept my own feelings about ___________whenever they come up and don’t try to push away those feelings.

I would love to help you sort through and gain new skills to handle these relationship issues; call me at 972-672-1957 or email me at for an appointment.

If you think you’re enlightened, go visit your family.” Ram Dass